Thank you for sharing and for offering kind but firm rebuttals to that mother. I hope she learned something. An analogy I like to use to help explain the identity which needs support is short people. Not little people, but simply short. I'm 5'1". No one would suggest I should be placed on a stretcher or given growth hormones to "fix" my shortness. At the same time, no one would question my need for a step stool, custom hemmed pants, or the assistance of a tall person at the grocery store.